....In order to stop continuously adding condemnation, guilt and shame to ourself for our own past sins that were sincerely confessed and repented unto God in which He forgave.  Unless we have chosen to continue in our sins after having confessed and repented......Only You truly know and God truly knows???   And we must stop comparing ourselves with others or even our past life choices or decisions with others that resulted in what we produced or manifested into our present and future....our sown harvest (good or bad) (and sometimes it also depends on how we see it as, a good or bad harvest from a previous seed sown.  (and hopefully not presently sown seeds of sin)  

We must walk in the freedom to truly sincerely forgive ourself, just in case we haven't and are still carrying an excessive load, carrying extra unecessary baggage around.

"Release forgiveness unto self" means to actively let go of any negative feelings of guilt, shame, or self-blame you may be holding onto about past actions, essentially choosing to forgive yourself and move forward without carrying the burden of those past mistakes; it's about accepting that you made a choice, acknowledging your responsibility, and choosing to release the emotional weight of that choice to allow for personal healing and growth.  

DECEPTION and SELF DECEPTION IS SO VERY REAL

Recognize the value of forgiveness and how it can improve your life. Identify what needs healing and who you want or need to honestly forgive. Join a support group or see a counselor. Acknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you, recognize how those emotions affect your behavior, and work to release them.

Through the Savior's Atonement, you have the power to do all things that God wants you to do—even forgive yourself. As you sincerely repent, keep your life clean, continue to obey the commandments, and come to know for yourself of the Savior's mercy, the pain you feel when you remember your past sins will fade.

You will find healing and the sweet peace of forgiveness.

What Is Self-Forgiveness?

Self-forgiveness is not an on-off switch, but a process that happens over time through emotional work and reflection.

Self-forgiveness requires striking a balance between taking responsibility and maintaining a positive sense of self. When you successfully find this equilibrium, you reach self-forgiveness.

In psychology, the concept of self-forgiveness is still relatively new and involves a combination of emotional, motivational, and behavioral changes.

Enright and the Human Development Study Group (1996, p. 116) were the first to offer a concrete psychological definition of self-forgiveness as “a willingness to abandon self-resentment in the face of one’s acknowledged objective wrong, while fostering compassion, generosity, and love toward oneself.”

Enright and the Human Development Study Group (1996) highlighted three important pillars of self-forgiveness:

1. The release of negative emotions directed toward the self
2. The cultivation of positive emotions directed toward the self
3. An acceptance of responsibility

Releasing self-directed negative emotions

When we do something intentionally bad, wrong, or against our values, we may be greeted with painful, negative emotions such as shame, guilt, resentment, or anger. We may also have negative thoughts about ourselves, such as, “It’s all my fault” or “I’m a terrible person.” 

Self-forgiveness does not mean we skip the step of feeling bad; it simply means that we work through these feelings of self-resentment and then relieve ourselves of them once they’ve served their purpose. Initially, remorseful feelings can be useful because they motivate us to make amends if we are not intentional on purpose extremely cold hearted people with no kindness no honor no integrity no love no peace no remorse no shame and no guilt that is able to correct us while in our wrong doings.

Cultivating self-directed positive emotions

As well as putting our negative emotions in our rear-view mirror, self-forgiveness involves fostering benevolent thoughts and emotions toward the self in the form of self-compassion, love, and kindness. Through self-compassion, we can appreciate our shared humanity and acknowledge that we can all make mistakes, but hopefully we are allowing ourselves to learn quickly from them without having to repeat the same so called mistake several times over and is a sign of true maturity and intentionality to doing what is right, healthy and safe towards self and others.

Acknowledging and accepting responsibility

If you were to only absolve yourself of negative emotions and shower yourself with positive emotions, this would be “pseudo-self-forgiveness” . True self-forgiveness involves recognizing the “wrongness” of your actions and acknowledging them to self or to another.

When a person has caused harm to another, self-forgiveness should also include an other-focused component, where the person seeks to make amends with the person they’ve wronged and recommits to their values. Suggest that this would make it less likely that the “offense” would happen again.

Here are the four Rs of genuine self-forgiveness that could be applied in a counseling setting:

1. Responsibility
   The person seeking forgiveness takes responsibility and does not lay blame elsewhere.
2. Remorse
   The individual should work through difficult emotions like shame to more “offense-specific” emotions like guilt, which are more likely to motivate people to make reparations.
3. Restoration
   The next step is to actively try to make things right, repair relationships, and reaffirm any moral values that were broken.
4. Renewal
   This is a place of self-forgiveness, renewed self-compassion, and self-respect. Through this process, the individual achieves “moral growth.”

You might wonder about the people who have no “wrong” to take responsibility for.

As well as breaking the moral codes of our communities, we may chastise ourselves for not meeting some internal, unrealistic, or perfectionistic standard. You might beat yourself up for failing a driving test or losing a sports competition or for not graduating from college or for being a divorced parent or for dispointing your children or for dispointing parents or your other love ones. Stop and do not allow yourself to make your emotional turmoil feel worst. Although you believe you’ve failed or let people down in some way, there is no ill intention, no amends to be made, and no one to apologize to.

In this case, developing a more accurate understanding of the limits of responsibility you can reasonably place on yourself could help you unburden yourself of misplaced or excessive “perceived” responsibility.

When self-forgiveness is not the answer

When working with people to reach self-forgiveness in a counseling setting, for some people, self-forgiveness may not be an appropriate focus for healing. For example, when working with victims of a sexual assault, taking responsibility is not warranted, and encouraging self-forgiveness could actually compound harmful feelings of self-blame.

Additionally, someone who continues to harm another person (in the case of (domestic abuse) is not fully accepting responsibility for their actions. It’s possible that relieving negative self-directed feelings through premature self-forgiveness could dull the incentive to change behavior.

How to Forgive Yourself: 8 Steps

To foster self-forgiveness in a self-directed way, the following are two fundamental aims of the process:

1. Working toward acknowledging responsibility
2. Reaffirming your worth

To break it down, here are eight steps you can take to work toward self-forgiveness:

1. Identify
   Identify the events or behaviors you wish to forgive yourself for.
2. Explore
   Explore your responsibility for what happened. To what extent were you responsible?
3. Accept and experience remorse
   When you have acknowledged your level of responsibility, try to accept this responsibility. Remorseful or shameful feelings that arise may be difficult to sit with, face, and face up to, so be kind to yourself in the process.
4. Notice thoughts and feelings
   Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings and look to challenge perfectionist thinking or any unreasonable standards you’re holding yourself to. If you’re feeling guilt or shame, try to understand this in the context of this one unique event or behavior. Avoid generalizing these feelings to you as a person (i.e., focus on your actions, not your character).
5. Make amends (if needed)
   Make amends when possible with the person you harmed. If there are no amends to be made, consider whether you’re being reasonable in blaming yourself.
6. Recommit
   Learn from the experience, and continue to make choices that are in line with your values, morally, integral, honorably and spiritually. By recommitting to your values, you reaffirm that your principles are important to you, which can lead to personal growth, spiritually and naturally.
7. Nurture compassion
   Try to build up good feelings about yourself, and get into a more compassionate mindset. How would you speak to a friend who was going through the same a similar situation or life matter?
8. Let go
   Let go of any negative feelings toward yourself. Notice whether any behaviors or unhelpful thinking processes are continuing the cycle of self-punishment. You’re not pretending it didn’t happen; you’re simply acknowledging that continuing to resent yourself is no longer useful. Treat yourself with compassion, and validate your value as a person, perhaps with the use of affirmations or guided meditations.

Self-forgiveness is necessary for us to move on, learn from our mistakes, and ultimately lead a more fulfilling life.

Key points about releasing forgiveness unto self:

• Accepting responsibility:

  Acknowledging your role in the situation while also understanding that everyone makes mistakes. 

  (It is should no longer be considered a mistake after too many intentional repeats)

   
• Self-compassion:

  Treating yourself with kindness and understanding, recognizing that you are worthy of forgiveness. 

   
• Letting go of the past:

  Choosing not to dwell on past actions and instead focus on present growth. 

   
• Emotional release:

  Allowing yourself to feel the emotions associated with the situation, and then consciously choosing to release them. 

   

How to practice self-forgiveness:

• Identify the issue:

  Clearly define the specific actions or situations you want to forgive yourself for. 

   
• Reflect on your emotions:

  Explore the feelings of guilt, shame, or regret associated with the situation in order to find and add complete resolution and restoration. 

   
• Acknowledge your actions:

  Take responsibility for your role in the situation without overly criticizing yourself, but be intentionally brutually honest with self. 

   
• Practice self-compassion statements:

  Repeat affirmations like "I am worthy of forgiveness" or "I am learning and growing".  Meditate on bible scriptures to help create, boost and elevate your self-esteem self-confidence and self-love.

   
• Seek trusted honorable mature integral wise support:

  Consider talking to a trusted mature honest focused humble planted stable steadfast honorable God led spiritually connected therapist leader or trusted friend to help process your emotions and work through the forgiveness process if greatly honestly needed and progress is discerned and is showing intentionally visible truths.

   

  “I know God has forgiven me for past sins, but how can I forgive myself?”

  Pray to Forgive Yourself

  Forgiving yourself is never easy, even if Heavenly Father has forgiven you. Sometimes you have to pray a little harder to ask for the strength to forgive yourself. Other times you have to talk it out with a trusted honorable integral wise leader or parent.

   

  Focus on Doing Your Very Best while Being God Led

  Forgiving yourself is a big part of the repentance process. Once God has forgiven you for your sins, the scriptures say that a big part of fully repenting is forsaking your sins, which means distancing yourself as far as possible from them. Focus on being the best person you can be now instead of dwelling on the past. I think once you’re focused on only doing good and living righteously, you’ll be able to forgive yourself.

  Do Not Cause Yourself Misery

  If you have messed up, as we all have, do not cause yourself any more misery. Repentance is a beautiful thing. Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ we all can be clean. We can be forgiven, we can learn to forgive ourselves, and we can put the past behind us. How blessed we are to have second third forth fifth and many mercy favor and grace chances. How blessed we are to know we can start all over and be provided the strength to do so through the Holy Ghost.

  Ask God for Help

  If you pray to be forgiven and feel forgiven, you should pray to be comforted, and you will feel comforted. I know the Holy Ghost is a great companion and can help you with anything that you are struggling with. Also, if you still have a hard time forgiving yourself, you can ask for a confession blessing.

  Follow the Right Path

  When you’re driving through a tunnel, it’s dark. You might feel like you’re going in the wrong direction and it can be scary, but when you see a peek of light at the end, you get a feeling of comfort and relief. This can relate to the gospel. If we get lost, scared, or headed in the wrong direction we can turn to our Savior, Jesus Christ, for forgiveness and comfort. He is there to forgive us for those sins we repent of and help us get back on the right path so we can live with Him again. If we can remember the commandments and the gospel in our daily lives, we can live with our Savior and have everlasting happiness and joy. Our Heavenly Father and Savior want nothing more than for us to make it to the celestial kingdom and live with Them again.  The predestined plan that God has already made and prepared for us is a done deal, even if we add our own faults and planned agenda to the Gods predestined plans, adding more delays, hinderances, stumbling blocks storms and confusion.  God still leads us safely through even when having to deal with the enemy, with others or with our own added secret hidden exposed or visibly revealed agendas, true intentions, motives, plots, deceiption, manipulation and schemes, no matter if for good or bad intended reasons.

   

20 Self-Forgiveness Affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements that can help people reconnect with a more compassionate mindset. Using them regularly can help people turn the volume down on negative self-talk and amplify more positive self-affirming thoughts.

Here are 20 self-forgiveness affirmations you could try either for yourself or in session:

1. I am worthy of forgiveness.
2. I am human, and sometimes I make mistakes, but should learn from them so that I won't continue in a repeated lifestyle pattern.
3. I can learn from my mistakes.  I choose to learn from my mistakes, showing signs of maturity early on.
4. I forgive myself for what I did.
5. No one is defined by one mistake or one incident, unless it becomes a repeated lifestyle pattern.
6. I can let go of release feelings of torment guilt shame negative regrets and tortured remorse.
7. I can forgive myself, as I would forgive others.
8. I deserve to treat myself with love compassion and kindness.
9. I love, forgive, and accept myself with all of my imperfections.
10. I am worthy of others’ love and acceptance, just as my intentional daily positive improving mature growing motivated humbly strengthened self.
11. By accepting responsibility for what happened, I can achieve personal growth.
12. I deserve to be able to move on with my life.
13. I welcome kindness, compassion, peace, hope, joy and love into my life.
14. I care about others and am accountable for my own actions.
15. I am wiser today than yesterday because I have learned from my mistakes.
16. I deserve to speak kindly to myself.
17. Since having made mistakes in life, it can be and should be used as an opportunity to gain wisdom.
18. Forgiveness is a strength.
19. Punishing myself forever is unhelpful and is a life time of pain infliction, unforgiveness, anger, torture, torment, revenge, and punishment to me and others.
20. I will continue to live in line with my spiritual and natural values as best I can, as I always have.

• John 1:9

  "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" 

   
• Ephesians 1:7

  "In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of His grace" 

   
• Colossians 3:13

  "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you" 

   
• Ephesians 4:31-32

  "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you" 

   

• Forgiveness is a choice to release the offender from the debt they owe you 
   
• Forgiveness is an act of obedience to God, whether the person deserves it 
   
• Forgiveness is a way to respond to harm in a powerful and transformational way 

The Bible makes it abundantly clear that only God can forgive sin, so in one sense it is incorrect to speak of “forgiving yourself.” After all, we didn't sin against ourselves. All sin is a violation of God's law, so all sin is ultimately against God, the Lawgiver.

TO OUR GOD BE ALL OF THE GLORY FOREVER AND EVER AMEN!!!

GOD BLESS